As I sit here, toiling over exactly how I want to start
this article; I am just dumbfounded at the world around me. I am dumbfounded at
my own life…and the reflection of my life that causes a nauseating ache in my
stomach that is sickening and revolting. I ache at where I have been, and
somehow at the same time rejoice in where I have come.
The pain that sits in the pit of my belly is in
recognizing that there are so many people that are caught in the same trap that
I was. The pain is further intensified by the realization that the consequences
of the trap are an eternal separation from the Love of our Heavenly Father!
The trap that I am referring to is the lie. Some of you
that have been in any of my writings previous to this one are getting a sense
of where I am going, others are completely lost and asking yourself; “what lie is he talking about?” And I guess I
should start by clarifying that it is not just one lie, but an endless stream
of lie’s that we embrace and engage as we charge on through life. So I am going
to attempt to list some of the trap’s or the “lie’s” that lead us all so far
off course.
Let’s start with talking about the lie of happiness. More
specifically the lie of what brings us happiness. It’s the lie that points to
all the things of this world that the world tells us will make us happy. It’s
the lie that money make you happy. It’s the lie that possessions will make you
happy. It’s also the lie that success will bring you happiness.
What’s so absolutely frustrating, more so than the fact
that I had totally sold out to this lie, is the fact of how blatant of a lie it
is! It took very little research to find an endless list of successful people
who were or had been treated for depression or even had chosen to end their own
life. You cannot watch the news or get on any social media without getting
updates of “successful” people who are utterly miserable and their lives are in
shambles. People who have reached the pinnacle of success, people of have
obtained more than they could ever use or even give away; and yet we are never
exhausted in the endless hobby of watching them fall. They suffer from anxiety,
depression, alcoholism, and drug addiction; bankruptcy, failed marriages,
broken families and broken lives.
Our
next grasp at putting our faith into success is in the next up and coming star.
The next entrepreneur or businessman, the next young entertainer to break onto
the scene; we watch in hopeful anticipation of their success. Are they going to
be the one to make it, is their marriage going to survive? We watch and we wait
for the one we can look to prove our own struggles and ambitions are not in
vein. Like watching NASCAR…we don’t want our driver to crash but we’re hoping
someone does. (a little sick)
We work endless hours, search after endless degrees all
to climb the financial ladder. Whatever it takes, we want more. All so that
when we have obtained it, we will finally be happy. But we never are. NEVER!
What about the lie of “me”? It’s the lie of
self-sufficiency…the lie of self-reliance. We are human beings. We are
beautifully and wonderfully made. We have been created with the ability to reason
and with the ability to rationalize and to imagine. We have the ability to
create and to adapt, the ability to grow both physically and mentally. We have
been created for success. However, it’s that very success that creates
arrogance, the arrogance of believing that we are all we need.
So, none of this may be making any sense to you. First
you are running through your mind to come up with a list of successful people
that are happy. Second, you’re running through the thoughts of everything you
have been told from your childhood; work hard, earning a career, don’t relying
on anyone else, or just to be self-reliant. We are taught independence and
self-promotion. Please allow me to address these arguments.
I acknowledge that there people out there who are
successful and appear to be happy. I will also argue that most of us attempt to
portray an outward attitude that does not accurately reflect what is going on
inside. I will also point out that some of those names that you may point to
have something else beyond their success and possessions that gives them joy
(that just caused someone a headache).
I want to also address the idea of self-reliance. It is a
thought or belief that satisfaction, joy and happiness can be obtained through
our own efforts, our own achievements and our own work. That is a great thought
and concept short of one flaw. It goes against the way we are built or
designed. Let me explain:
For those who have been convinced by the lie, you have
probably stopped reading this and walked away. For those of you who are not
sure or curious…I continue.
You were created. You are not an accidental collision of
molecules that through a series of happenstance created a slime that accidently
bumped into another slimy collection of accidental molecules and somehow
created a third slimy collection of molecules and eventually evolved into a
monkey. Who coincidentally found another monkey who had been formed through the
same accidental process and the 2 of you created more monkeys that eventually
through more happenstance, evolved into humans; yet leaving monkeys who didn’t
evolve.
This is the truth, whether you choose to believe it or
not, this is the TRUTH! You were created. Created by God who loves you; loves
you so much that His son came to Earth to be ridiculed, tortured and bear the
weight of YOUR sin so that through Him, your place in Heaven is secured! You
are created…created by God who does not need you, but wants you; wants a
relationship with you, wants to love you and wants for you to love Him. In you
He has created a desire for relationships. It’s in you, it’s in your DNA, and
it’s in your make-up. You have been created for relationship with your Heavenly
Father. You have also been created for relationship with each other.
In Genesis chapters 1-3; God created man and woman in His likeness and said this is good. He
provided for them there every need; he commanded them to be in relationship
with each other as he told them to “multiply”; and he made it GOOD! After they
had disobeyed his laws, he found them as He was strolling through the garden to
hang out with them. This is a God that wants to be with us. This is a God who
created the Universe and all that is in it; He does not need us, He desires to
be with us. He created us to be with Him.
He
created us with a desire to be in relationship with each other and with Him. It
is when we try to fill that desire with self, with ambitions, with money, with
success, with toys and things; with sexual encounters that involve no
relationship! We were born to be in relationship. The lie is that we can fill
the desire that is in us with anything else but with God in whom we’ve been
granted COMPLETE access through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ.
If
you are caught in the lie; I pray with all my heart that you recognize that you
cannot achieve true joy or true happiness in anything outside of a relationship
with your Heavenly Father. I pray for you right now that you stop where you are
and reach out to Jesus Christ who has secured your place in Heaven; cry out for
a relationship, reach out to your Father in Heaven and embrace the love that He
has for YOU! –YOUR FATHER IS CALLING!