Adam’s leadership was to simply stand firm on the word; stand firm on the law of God. Whether you believe Eve brought the apple to Adam or that they were standing there at the tree together. Adam’s decision was his own, his actions were his own. So you’re asking where I am going with this.
You must stand firm in obedience to God’s laws and seek his righteousness regardless of what the world or your spouse says or does.
And you must serve. Not seeking position, but submission. Not seeking title but humility. Not seeking to control, manipulate, dominate, guide, push, pull or otherwise direct; but to serve.
Jesus when instructing his disciples told them;
May God; through the Holy Spirit humble your heart, open your eyes and direct your spirit to a better understanding of what He wants from you to be a better leader in your home, your neighborhood, in your job and in your church. It is through Jesus Christ that we are able to humbly request and humbly serve. -Amen