You
know what’s so amazing about God…? (Ok. So there are a lot of things that are
amazing about our God). But one of the things that is so amazing about our God
is that He can use anyone or anything to speak to us. How awesome is it that our
God can use any circumstance or situation to speak to us; if we’ll just have
the ears to hear. (Another lesson, I digress.)
It
was during one of these experiences that God showed me how I was hurting people
in my attempt to help people. I gotta tell you; that was a HUGE slap in the
head for me! I’m talking about one whomping “Gibbs slap”. So I’d like to share
the experience with you in hopes that it benefits you as well.
There
has been a charming young lady that God and led into my life that I have been
attempting to counsel on her life and her situation. The story is not original;
got married young, had kid’s young and is now completely overwhelmed by her
life’s circumstances. (For those of you that know me, this is not my
life’s story.) Now my first gut reflex and reaction to “help” a person in a similar situation is to tell them; “You need
Jesus!” However; to those who don’t know Christ, they have no idea what that
means. I would have better results if I just said; “You need a drink!” And
honestly, that would probably be more helpful.
So
I opened up conversation with this person and I start down the path of going
through the things in her life that are causing her so much anxiety and stress
in an effort to point her towards some better coping skills and in the end…her
need for the savior – Jesus Christ. Early on in this process, like most, I
notice that what I was getting from her was behavior modification; not a heart
change. This naturally was not helping her circumstances, just causing more
frustration. So I sat down with her and we discuss how she was struggling with
her new behavior and discussed her internal struggle to revert back to old habits.
So I “wisely counsel” her and point out that she has just modified her behavior
without changing who she is. (Man that sounded good coming out of my mouth).
Until she looked at me inquisitively and somewhat hurt and said; “You make me
sound like a horrible person.”
I
was wrecked. Here I was attempting to help her - and with the best intentions,
and without being aware of it; I had caused her more pain. The impact that had
on me was beyond explanation. I had inadvertently brought her to the same issue
that ran me out of so many churches most of my life. The issue that I did not want anyone telling
me that I needed to change. I liked who I was. I liked being me and NO ONE was
going to tell me that I needed to be (or become) someone or something else!
You
know, once we invite Jesus into our hearts and into our lives, as followers of
Christ, we are excited about the changes that begin to take place in our lives.
We get excited and we want to share our story with others. But that’s exactly
it…the changes are not in who we are, but who Jesus is in us and what Christ is
doing in our lives…not in who we are!
This
sent me into deep reflection and prayer; and if I may, I would like to draw you
a different picture of what Jesus does when He enters our hearts and give you
yet another tool to use as you share with those that are unsaved; to possibly better
help them understand what it is that Christ is offering.
So
here we go:
We
all have been beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made (Palm 139:14). In God’s
eyes, we all have been created by Him and in His image (Genesis 1:26). God looks
upon each and every one of us as a proud parent holding their newborn child for
the first time; looking at a new and perfect creation. Sure God sees our sins;
but he sees them apart from his creation. This sin that destroys our lives is a
part of our lives, but God still sees the creation…free from sin.
See,
I have been created by the perfect creator in His image for the purpose of a
relationship with my creator. So if I was created to be who I am, why does it
make any sense that I would have to change who I am to become the person I was
created to be? (You may need to read that a couple of times and let that soak
in. - Take your time…)
So
let me offer up a thought. My God, my father, my creator…created me as I am for
the sole purpose to have a relationship with Him. In that relationship I will honor
and serve Him out of love with the personality and gifts that He gave me when
He created me. But there is something wrong that is keeping me from doing that.
You
see, what happens is that we pick up and collect garbage. This garbage can come
from our parents that get passed down. Garbage piled on us from the place where
we are born and the circumstances we are raised in. Garbage we begin to accumulate
from our friends, schools and influences. Garbage we carry from our decisions
and their resulting consequences. It’s from all these exposures to the world,
and quite frankly the sins of the world that we collect and accumulate our
garbage.
Now
we learn from a very young age how to hide our garbage. First of all we don’t
want to suffer the consequences of having the garbage so it gets hidden. Then
we get embarrassed about our garbage and don’t want anyone to know about it…so
we hide it. We also, at a very early age, learn the importance of appearances;
so we learn to hide our garbage.
We
hide our garbage under the bed, stick it in the closet, toss it in the back
yard…all in an effort to hide our garbage from everyone else (including God).
After all it’s not who we are, it’s just garbage we’ve collected. But it’s not
long that we begin to notice that our garbage is affecting others; plainly put –
it stinks! We know that our garbage is a problem, but we just don’t know how to
get rid of it. Some of our garbage has been with us so long, we’re not sure how
we would function without it. No matter how bad it stinks, it’s like an old
blanket that just brings us comfort. After all, there is security in what you
know and fear in what you don’t. So we hang onto our garbage.
Heck,
even if I wanted to get rid of it; where would I put it?
So
we keep on going trying to find ways to hide our garbage, mask the smell, build
up walls and barriers so that no one can get to or find out about our garbage.
All the while realizing how much it makes us stink.
That’s
where Jesus Christ comes in. He is my trash collector. He is my garbage man.
You see, God is not trying to change who you are…he created you. He loves you
so much that He sent his son to bridge that gap in the relationship between Him
and you. He just wants you to allow Jesus into your compound so He can start
clearing out the garbage. It’s not about changing who you are; it’s about
discovering who you were really created to be: that you that has been buried under
and behind all that garbage.
Jesus
Christ is crying out for you to come as you are. There is nothing that you need
to change, nothing that you need to prepare; and certainly nothing that you
need to do or could hide. God is that Father that eagerly awaits the return of
the prodigal son. Your Father cries out that there is no need to clean up, no
need to change, just come home and I will clear away your garbage and place you
in fresh clean linens and restore you to the place you were created to be. Don’t
change, just come home.
So
for all those that don’t know what it means to allow Christ into their lives,
it’s simple; just call in the garbage collector and let him take away all in
you that stinks, all that burdens, and all that shames. Let Christ clear away
all that is keeping you from the person of God and the relationship with God
that you were created to be.
May
the Creator of the Universe and the God of our salvation guide you, lead you
and strengthen you as you pursue a greater relationship with Him and may he
give you peace as you traverse the battlefield of this life towards our pursuit
of eternity with Him.
God’s
Blessings be upon you.
